The Insatiable Partner: Some people are married to a partner (often the husband) who seems to have an endless appetite for sex. It can make you feel like a POS machine. In such situations, the emotional connection might grow weak. To address this situation, try engaging in other couple activities that don’t involve bedroom acrobatics. If this is you, try switching things up. Maybe learn to play Ludo together, no be only knacking every time!
The Uninterested Partner: Others find themselves with a spouse who shows zero interest in intimate matters (often the wife). This could be due to emotional issues, past traumas, hormonal imbalances, or simply being upset with their partner. Try to have an open conversation about it, offload your mind anyhow - Have a heart-to-heart talk! Consider changing contraceptives if they’re causing you issues. Remember, a healthy sex life is Marriage 101 - crucial for a healthy relationship!
The Hygiene Challenged Partner: Nothing kills the mood faster than poor hygiene. It’s a struggle to kiss, touch, or be intimate with someone who doesn’t brush their teeth, shower regularly, or changes their underwear regularly. If your partner falls into this category, suggest showering together, buy them new underwear as a gift, and explain how it excites you. If you’re the culprit, remember that good hygiene makes you as irresistible as fresh Agege bread!
The Wandering Eye Syndrome: A wandering eye will make staying faithful feel like an Olympic sport. You might find yourself flirting with others via phone, at work, in your neighborhood, or on social media as if you’re a celebrity. This can affect how you view your partner. To overcome this, stop feeding the beast. Avoid flirtatious conversations and see people around you with respect, not as meal to be devoured.
Unmet Sexual Expectations: Nothing is more frustrating than being married but feeling unfulfilled. Most likely its because you have not lovingly communicated your desires, or favorite positions to your partner. Spill the beans about your favorite moves or that secret fantasy you’ve been harboring. But remember, your partner isn’t a mind reader. And, before expecting your partner to satisfy you, try satisfying them first. You’re not the only one with fantasies!
The Ex Files: Some people find themselves battling memories of their ex-partners in bed. While being intimate with their spouse, they’re mentally replaying highlight reels of past lovers. Please, its time to hit ‘delete’ on those memories. See your spouse as the special edition that life has gifted you. Embrace their unique qualities and start building new, steamier memories., and your mind will reset.
Pornography Addiction: Adult films can distract you from building real intimacy with your spouse. They might make you ignore your spouse without you knowing it just to look at videos and pictures of naked strangers banging.. To solve this, focus on the real deal - this isn’t a movie you’re watching. Train yourself to say “Tufiakwa!” anytime the temptation comes knocking.
The DIY Champion: Self-pleasure might make your spouse feel like they’re competing with your hand. Your hand might win because you know exactly which buttons to push, but your marriage will lose. Teach your spouse how you like to be touched, show your spouse which button to press on your body - after all, you are the professor of your own body!
A Penis That Cannot Sustain Erection:: Many men struggle with maintaining arousal. They lose their erection due to panic or lack of concentration. To address this, remember that Sex starts in the mind. Take a deep breath, relax, and be in the moment, enjoy every sensation like say na the last Afang soup for Mama Calabar canteen.
The Overthinking Wife: Many wives struggle to reach climax because their minds are as busy as rush hour traffic. “Have the kids eaten? Is my vagina smelling? Is he really enjoying it? Am I moaning too loud? Am I too wet? Did I bring out the stew from the freezer? What hairstyle should I try next?” These are just some of the thoughts racing through her mind while her partner is hard at work. Madam, abeg relax, no be JAMB exam!
A Penis that Ejaculates Too Quickly: If your wife makes you ejaculate that means she is so sweet and that is a good thing. But what she desires is that you stay hard longer. To address this, when you feel close to climax, pause briefly, change positions to regain control. Practice techniques like deep breathing or mental distraction.
Low Self-Esteem Doubting your attractiveness or performance can significantly impact your intimate life. Confidence plays a crucial role in sexual satisfaction. Confidence is crucial when it comes to all things sex. To boost your self-esteem: Embrace your body, including imperfections like stretch marks, extra weight or saggy breast. Focus on maintaining good health through exercise and proper nutrition. Flaunt your positive attributes to your spouse. Exchange compliments with your partner to foster mutual appreciation.
Extramarital Affairs: Engaging in an affair can severely damage your marriage. When another person is already servicing your body, you are likely to come home to your spouse feeling uninterested. On top of that, you will be filled with guilt to the point that you struggle to connect with your spouse; and if your spouse suspects or knows they will shut you out. It is necessary to rebuild trust and intimacy in your marriage. Consider seeking couples counseling to address underlying issues.
Comparing Your Relationship to Others: When you hear or read the colourful sex stories of other couples, of how the wife squirts, how the husband lasts for forty minutes, how the wife rides like a pro, how the husband feasts on her clitoris till she cries; you might begin to question your own marriage and whether you two are happily married. Each marriage is unique, make your own special memories.
Remember, every marriage has its own special sauce. Don’t compare your love life to the social media reels of others. Focus on making your own relationship the spiciest and the most delicious concoction it can be!
Lets spill the tea on topics everyone thinks about but no one talks about. Keeping marriages spicy could be a dirty job, but somebody has to do it!
